A Better Way Through the Season
Here are the shifts that help my clients feel lighter, calmer, and more in control:
A Better Way Through the Season
Here are the shifts that help my clients feel lighter, calmer, and more in control:
1. Focus on What You Can Control
You can’t change people — if you could, you would’ve done it years ago.
But you can change how you show up this season.
Ask yourself:
What part hurts the most this season?
What role do I play in keeping that pain going?
If a miracle happened overnight, what would this season look like instead?
What would I be doing? Who would I be around? How would I feel?
2. Choose One or Two Small Actions
Not ten.
Not a whole new life.
Just one or two doable actions that move you toward peace, not chaos.
3. Protect Your Energy
Limit drama. Be civil, not available.
Spend the day differently if your presence isn’t appreciated.
Accept an invite even if you only stay for a short time.
Create new traditions instead of clinging to painful old ones.
4. Honor Your Heart
If you’re grieving, don’t pretend you’re not.
Share memories. Light a candle. Talk about them.
Healing isn’t forgetting — it’s honoring and moving forward.
5. Don’t Isolate
There are 7 billion people in the world.
Someone needs what you have to give.
Visit someone lonely. Volunteer. Call a friend.
Connection heals.
6. Perspective Is Everything
One tough day does not equal a tough life.
The season may be difficult, but it is temporary.
You can choose how you experience it.
Your Four Choices
No matter what you’re facing, you always have these options:
Accept it.
Change it.
Change how you feel about it.
Stay miserable.
Only one keeps you stuck — and you deserve better than stuck.
You Deserve Peace This Season
Let this be the year you protect your energy, honor your heart, and choose joy in small, meaningful ways.
You cannot control life.
But you can control how you move through it.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
A Final Word for You
Show up for yourself this season.
Not perfectly — just with intention.
You have survived every hard moment life has thrown at you.
Let this be the holiday season where you feel lighter, stronger, and more grounded…
not because everything is perfect, but because you chose yourself.
You deserve peace.
You deserve joy.
And you deserve a season that doesn’t drain your life.
Want More Support?
If you’re ready for tools, worksheets, and step-by-step guidance on how to calm your mind, protect your peace, and manage life more effectively, check out:
👉 Gittin My Ish Together™ — A 12-Step Solution-Focused Life Management Workbook
Perfect for women in therapy, treatment programs, IOP, residential settings, group work, or doing the journey solo.